Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change. All of the political action in the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?
We spend money and time on sh*t that don’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run. Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my thought that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
I have been in the Clutch for three years. I planned to join for one month, learn the tools and leave. I also was a person who felt like I had “tried everything” in terms of therapy/self help etc. and even the things that gave me some relief it was only temporary. I can say without a doubt the Clutch and Kara’s way of doing thought work is it for me. The work is hard, you have to be willing to go in on it, challenge yourself and also to slog out practicing thoughts you don’t yet believe. But this has changed my life. I am also still getting so much value from the Clutch, every time I think I’m done I just level up to something else.
Also – I would say I came into the Clutch thinking I needed this to “fix” myself. Now that idea feels so strange to me, which is the absolute best indication of how much I’ve changed.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
What’s changed since joining the Clutch is that it feels like I’m FINALLY “making progress”. I’m FINALLY (after years of trying EVERYTHING) changing — I am changing my mind and my thoughts, which is changing how I perceive the people around me, which is changing my feelings, my actions and my entire f*cking life.
I recreated all of my coaching tools using a feminist lens, and tested them on my own brain. They blew my mind, and my clients started breaking through to levels of confidence, self-love, and joy they had always imagined were possible for other women…but not for them.
Knowing intellectually about sexism doesn’t translate into self-acceptance or self-love. Because the women’s rights movement is a work in progress. But it’s not enough.
I honestly can’t think of another mass-group where people solidly are “doing the work” in ways that never seem layered with competition, or righteousness, or unspoken judgments… It’s like a whole community of people who are the embodiment of “when you stop judging yourself, you stop judging others” kinda thing.
I can’t speak highly enough of Kara, her community, and all the chickens. It truly gives me such hope knowing the ripples growing around the world of fellow people learning how to do this stuff.
The diet industry alone is a 68 billion dollar a year industry in the US alone. SIXTY EIGHT BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life. And unlike diets, which are scientifically proven to always fail, this sh*t works.
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to deprogram the patriarchy, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create any change you want in your life.
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self Love & Self Acceptance, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
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The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching. Calls are led alternatingly by Kara and a coach of color.
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I am a bystander in this group. I don’t get on the website often, I don’t do daily models, I don’t listen in on calls, and I don’t participate in coaching. I peruse and read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position. After 11 years of putting my all into my job, educating pharmacists, nurses and critical care physicians, I was done. After battling through a COVID ICU for two years straight – I’m disposable. They offered me an 8 week severance and made me turn in my badge on the spot. I have a family with two small girls. I provide the majority of our income.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful. I have never once felt like a victim. They are the ones who lost and this is an opportunity for me to find and work for a company who values their employees, patient quality and patient care.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.